Think about it. Do you think the waves of pro-democracy activism that have swept across the Arab world in recent months were sparked by a desire for happiness? Similarly, do you think the brave Freedom Riders who put their lives on the line fifty years ago this spring to integrate buses and trains deep in the American south did so to support the cause of happiness? (Follow that Freedom Riders link and watch that new PBS doc. It's riveting.)
We are by no means opposed to happiness, and we are pretty sure Toni Morrison isn't either. Still, we've got a hunch that happiness should be a by-product or a consequence of the pursuit of those other, loftier ideals and not the object of the pursuit itself. If you are searching for meaningfulness -- in your work, your relationships, your way of moving through the world -- then we suspect you will end up feeling happy, at least most days, if by happiness you mean feeling satisfied with the general direction of your life and energies. However, if you focus on happiness primarily and lose sight of those larger-than-self aspirations, we worry that you'll wake up some morning twenty or thirty years from now and go, "Geez, man, is this all there is?"
Don't mind us, kids. We're just grouchy old broads who get a little high-minded and tender-hearted this time of year. Here ends the sermon on the speech. We now return to our regularly scheduled grading so that all those Happy Turtles strolling across all those stages over the next couple of days can have their accomplishments certified as legit, official, and diploma-ready. Peace out, and srsly: Congratulations, graduates. Dogspeed to each and every one of you.
(Image credits: Morrison picked up here; Peanuts here.)
Could agree more, with Morrison or with you. Thanks for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteI remember when I came to that realization. I had filed a complaint against a slimy, serial sexual harasser and legions of comrades did not stand and give me an ovation. In fact, I felt even more miserable. "Why did I do this, if it hasn't made me happy?" I wailed to myself. Then, at a stoplight at the end of an exit from the interstate, I realized that I didn't do it for happiness, I did it for satisfaction and for justice. You can't be happy without those, and those are much much better. May these young adults learn much sooner and with less pain.
ReplyDeleteNice to see where your college puts its priorities when choosing a commencement speaker, eh?
Clio B.: sometimes there's a satisfaction to be had with the knowledge that pursuing justice is making your perp even more miserable than you are. (Does it make me a bad person that I've taken great pleasure in making others miserable by rubbing their ill treatment of me in their faces? Perhaps, but it made me happy!)
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like Morrison's speech was very thoughtful and not your typical commencement speech. I like it!
There is something about watching Toni Morrison give the Commencement address at our alma mater on the first anniversary of my Mother's death that seems more than fitting, and in a holy way. Thank you, Roxie. Justice, fighting for justice, and for liberty and justice for all are what give life meaning. May we stand with Morrison in that and in "I am a storyteller and therefore an optimist." My sweet Mama taught me the powers of imagination, of storytelling, long before I could read (well, read words on a page, that is).
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Thanks for posting this, Roxie.
ReplyDeleteThe NYTimes recently did a piece on the social science research on this - they call it flourishing. Stems from researchers being unhappy with the whole focus on happiness in positive psychology - couldn't agree with them and Morrison more:
ReplyDeletehttp://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/17/science/17tierney.html?scp=1&sq=beyond%20happy&st=cse